Dec 09 2008
What Does it Take for Death to Mean Something?
The Bad with No Sign of Good Through Which You Must Remain Good | Surprise Loss
If you said to me, do I expect my family members to be there tomorrow, I would say yes because I’m not aware of any immediate threats. I think there’s a difference, however, between assuming the status quo and taking things for granted. Over the weekend a good friend of the family from another state lost her new husband in a car accident.
I can’t really presume, or I should say I don’t want to, but it’s probably safe to imagine that they had plans for next week just as they’ve had plans for the twenty or thirty weeks before this. Things were going according to plan, and nothing was interrupting that. Today I will go to sleep and tomorrow I will still have a partner.
Except for her that wasn’t true.A relative today told me he felt it would be harder to deal with a sudden loss as opposed to, say, a terminal cancer, speaking from experience with the latter half. I represent the former, and I am fortunate enough to not have experience with the full spectrum, but it does mess with your perspective on reality.
Bad things can happen, and will happen, and they can and will stay that way in equal measure.
My best advice is not to live in that place, but be open to reminders when they come around, especially if it gets you up off your butt to do something about it.
